Forgiving someone who has harmed you is not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind. When you refuse to forgive someone who has hurt you, you literally keep the hurt alive. Try coming up with a positive line or two to repeat to yourself when this happens.
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Sometimes it’s a good idea to simply stop, become quiet and listen to what’s going on inside of you. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you irritated? What’s cluttering up your mind right now and what might you think about that would be better and healthier for you?
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Hillary Clinton said this is her favorite quote of all time. “Regardless of how hard the day is, how difficult the decisions are, be grateful,” she said. “Be grateful that you have to reach out, be grateful for your critics, be grateful for being part of the universe.”
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“Let ecstasy erupt. Allow your heart to expand and overflow with adoration for this magnificent creation and for the love, wisdom, and power that birthed it all. Rapture is needed now – rapture, reverence and grace.”
In the book, What I Know For Sure by Oprah Winfrey, she writes that she finds solace and comfort in the above words. “Too often we block the power that is ever present,” she says, “because we’re so wrapped up in doing that we lose sight of being.”
It helps me to say the serenity prayer when this happens to me. It goes like this. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (other people), the courage to change the things I can (myself) and the wisdom to know the difference.
Good luck to you today.
It’s so easy to be self critical. How about some positive thinking on your own behalf? What is it you like about yourself, how you look, what makes you proud to be you and why would somebody be happy to know you?
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When I heard this, I finally understood what happens when we don’t treat ourselves well. We must learn to care for ourselves as well as we care for others as in love your neighbor as yourself.
A prescription for a happy life. Simple and true.
This helps me to remember to be present and to be grateful for what is rather than to spend precious time worrying about circumstances and people I can do nothing about.
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When someone says something hurtful to you and you obsess about it, the sooner you stop giving that person free rent in your head, the happier you will be. Come up with something positive to say to yourself when you catch yourself obsessing about someone or something you can do nothing about.
Everything is changing all the time. Nothing stays the same and is always changing for the good and for the bad. How you deal with the constant change is the difference between success and failure.
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It’s okay to be scared and insecure and afraid that you will be laughed at or nobody will take you seriously, just don’t let that stop you.
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Something to consider when you have the urge to blurt out your truth to just anybody.
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After enduring constant criticism and finding it difficult to tune it all out, Michelle Obama realized she had to ignore the noise and be true to herself.
Two of my e-books are about women who struggle mightily to be true to themselves. .
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Abundance can be in relationships, financial, productivity, spiritual, on and on. We all have so much more than we know.
He also stated that his three greatest challenges in his life were bonding, belonging and believing. He is currently fighting a battle with liver cancer and according to an essay he wrote in the New York Times, has only months to live. Dr. Sacks, is a professor of Neurology and author of several books about the connection between the brain, the mind, and the imagination. On the Move, A Life is his latest book.
Rebekah Gregory, a victim of the Boston Marathon bombing in 2013, spent 56 days in the hospital and underwent 13 surgeries to save her lower left leg, although she ended up losing it and now wears a prothesis, Nevertheless, she ran again this year and manaaged to cross the finish line.
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When Quincy Jones is putting together a song, he leaves 20 to 30 pecent for inspiration. This basically means, think hard, do everything you can think of to do, then basically relax and think about something else. That’s often when the real creativity happens.
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Proust writes in Swann’s Way about the day Swann’s beloved wife died and how shocked he is to discover himself enjoying the beautiful spring day. Such is life.
Mental strength is as important as a positive attitude. It takes mental strength to keep from cracking under pressure. This comes from a course taught by former Navy seal, Commander Mark Divine. He also includes self awareness and compassion for your teammates as other important attributes of mental toughness.
Try something new today to shake you out of your rut. Doesn’t have to be big, just something different from your usual routine, something that takes a little courage.
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Increasing your effort to be perfect often results in diminishing returns. So take it easy on yourself. Do your best and then let it go.
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On the cover is my hard working grandmother who ran a boarding house.
When you’re confused about what to do next, fully surrendering to the possibilities will help you see a clear path ahead. Probably best said that if you don’t know what to do, do nothing, but if you do know what to do next, do it now and usually the next step will be shown to you.
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“Raise the rent and kick them out,” she also said. Toxic people can do a lot of damage to your self esteem if you let them.
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Belonging starts with self acceptance. The more you are comfortable with who you are, the less likely you will feel the need to impress others.
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Let your resentments go because they cost you too much in self esteem. Instead of obsessing about or trying to change someone, concentrate on yourself and what you need to change. Pray also that the person in question be given the love, serenity and joy you want for yourself. I personally find this particular tip to be life changing.
How do you want to be remembered? How do you want people to describe you? Who do you want to be? Who or what matters most to you? What are your deepest values? How would you define success in your life? What makes your life really worth living?
These questions are the kinds of questions that can change your life.
Never let them see you sweat. It seems to me that the people who succeed in a big way, are able to remain calm, cool and utterly themselves, at least outwardly. I was reminded of this when watching Carrie Underwood at her audition for America’s Got Talent in 2005. See it at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOlrEFQ24SM.
In her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking, she suggests something she calls mental contrast whereby you imagine success but also imagine several of your own behaviours that could keep you from succeeding. What she discovered was that the students who did the mental contrast out performed those who did positive thinking alone. Obviously being mindful not just of your dreams but also of the real barriers that you or the world places in your way, is a far more effective way of achieving your goals.
Resentments of others makes you feel like a victim and costs you self esteem. Instead of focusing on others whom you can do nothing about, change your own thinking. It helps to have a few positive thinking mantras such as, “I am a worthy person and I deserve to be treated well,” that you can repeat to yourself when you find yourself obsessing about someone or something you cannot change.
Simply put, do your best and don’t worry about the outcome.
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Gratitude listing is a simple five-minute habit anyone can adopt that can make you a happier person. and happier people attract the best of everything life has to offer. Listing five things you are grateful for every morning before that first cup of coffee is a great way to start your day.
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Add to that another old saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”
What’s so interesting to me, is often winners I have known are not aware when they have succeeded because they are so busy plugging along, simply doing what they need to do next.
This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why. He puts in the energy. His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends. It’s easy not to and most people won’t, but if you want to have friends, it is up to you, not them to keep the friendship going.
Conversely, waking up each day and devoting yourself to being kind, even and especially to people who are not kind to you, is actually incredibly difficult. It is arduous and deliberate work, and the doing of it will at times make you feel small and foolish. What’s more, in the end, it will on its own merits almost never yield a person awards or honors or riches. But it is important work and needs to be done for its own sake.
Treat money with respect. Fight the urge to spend your money on things you don’t need or will lose interest in quickly. There’s no misery like being broke. Knowing you can pay the rent and buy groceries for months to come is worth more than buying something you want but don’t need right now.
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Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash. By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at home, you won’t have to fight the urge while buying time to decide if you really want that thing or not.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. If you can become immune to the opinions of others, you will save yourself from needless suffering.
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It doesn’t mean the simple answer is the easy or painless one, but it is the one that resonates with the deepest part of who we are. As human beings, we intuitively know if something works for us or not, or if we like something or someone or not.
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Change the way you think by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.
The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to be out there working for it to happen.
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When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers. The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and learning new information.
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Most wealthy Americans get there by saving diligently month by month. Something to remember when you’re tempted to spend your money on something you don’t need and that will give you little pleasure in the long run.
If you want great results, you have to take a chance on all of the above.
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Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so, replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones. What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being upset about people or things I can do nothing about, the happier and more peaceful I am.
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If you want to make a good impression, practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you. This alone will make you stand out.
According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things. By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace.
Peace to you today.
“It’s okay to try things and fail,” she said, stating on “Katie” that some of her biggest successes appeared to be huge failures at first.
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The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be. Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own peace of mind.
There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone. Avoid them if you possibly can.
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When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to be where you are.
According to a University of Colorado Denver study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer. Or as that old saying goes, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Good luck!