How do you want to be remembered? How do you want people to describe you? Who do you want to be? Who or what matters most to you? What are your deepest values? How would you define success in your life? What makes your life really worth living?
These questions are the kinds of questions that can change your life.
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On the cover is my hard working grandmother who ran a boarding house.
When you’re confused about what to do next, fully surrendering to the possibilities will help you see a clear path ahead. Probably best said that if you don’t know what to do, do nothing, but if you do know what to do next, do it now and usually the next step will be shown to you.
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“Raise the rent and kick them out,” she also said. Toxic people can do a lot of damage to your self esteem if you let them.
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Belonging starts with self acceptance. The more you are comfortable with who you are, the less likely you will feel the need to impress others.
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Let your resentments go because they cost you too much in self esteem. Instead of obsessing about or trying to change someone, concentrate on yourself and what you need to change. Pray also that the person in question be given the love, serenity and joy you want for yourself. I personally find this particular tip to be life changing.
Never let them see you sweat. It seems to me that the people who succeed in a big way, are able to remain calm, cool and utterly themselves, at least outwardly. I was reminded of this when watching Carrie Underwood at her audition for America’s Got Talent in 2005. See it at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOlrEFQ24SM.
In her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking, she suggests something she calls mental contrast whereby you imagine success but also imagine several of your own behaviours that could keep you from succeeding. What she discovered was that the students who did the mental contrast out performed those who did positive thinking alone. Obviously being mindful not just of your dreams but also of the real barriers that you or the world places in your way, is a far more effective way of achieving your goals.
Resentments of others makes you feel like a victim and costs you self esteem. Instead of focusing on others whom you can do nothing about, change your own thinking. It helps to have a few positive thinking mantras such as, “I am a worthy person and I deserve to be treated well,” that you can repeat to yourself when you find yourself obsessing about someone or something you cannot change.
Simply put, do your best and don’t worry about the outcome.
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Gratitude listing is a simple five-minute habit anyone can adopt that can make you a happier person. and happier people attract the best of everything life has to offer. Listing five things you are grateful for every morning before that first cup of coffee is a great way to start your day.
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Add to that another old saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”
What’s so interesting to me, is often winners I have known are not aware when they have succeeded because they are so busy plugging along, simply doing what they need to do next.
This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why. He puts in the energy. His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends. It’s easy not to and most people won’t, but if you want to have friends, it is up to you, not them to keep the friendship going.
Conversely, waking up each day and devoting yourself to being kind, even and especially to people who are not kind to you, is actually incredibly difficult. It is arduous and deliberate work, and the doing of it will at times make you feel small and foolish. What’s more, in the end, it will on its own merits almost never yield a person awards or honors or riches. But it is important work and needs to be done for its own sake.
Treat money with respect. Fight the urge to spend your money on things you don’t need or will lose interest in quickly. There’s no misery like being broke. Knowing you can pay the rent and buy groceries for months to come is worth more than buying something you want but don’t need right now.
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Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash. By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at home, you won’t have to fight the urge while buying time to decide if you really want that thing or not.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. If you can become immune to the opinions of others, you will save yourself from needless suffering.
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It doesn’t mean the simple answer is the easy or painless one, but it is the one that resonates with the deepest part of who we are. As human beings, we intuitively know if something works for us or not, or if we like something or someone or not.
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Change the way you think by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.
The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to be out there working for it to happen.
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When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers. The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and learning new information.
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Most wealthy Americans get there by saving diligently month by month. Something to remember when you’re tempted to spend your money on something you don’t need and that will give you little pleasure in the long run.
If you want great results, you have to take a chance on all of the above.
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Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so, replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones. What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being upset about people or things I can do nothing about, the happier and more peaceful I am.
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If you want to make a good impression, practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you. This alone will make you stand out.
According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things. By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace.
Peace to you today.
“It’s okay to try things and fail,” she said, stating on “Katie” that some of her biggest successes appeared to be huge failures at first.
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The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be. Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own peace of mind.
There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone. Avoid them if you possibly can.
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When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to be where you are.
According to a University of Colorado Denver study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer. Or as that old saying goes, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Good luck!
There will always be someone who doesn’t like you or approve of you at one time or another. “Don’t get too affected by them or even allow them to bring you down. Just let it go, and move on with life. Let God, or if you don’t believe in God, let the universe deal with them on its own.” This from Will Smith.
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When I get to obsessing about something that I can do nothing about, I do simple math problems in my head. This changes my focus from the right side of the brain (the feeling, intuitive side) to the left side of the brain (the detail-oriented, logic side). The result is usually peace and a good night’s sleep. Give it a try and see if this works for you when thinking about someone or something is keeping you up nights.
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First impressions are not always correct. Friendships, love affairs and relationships in general take time to develop.
The brain learns from failure. If you never had any failure in your life, you probably weren’t trying hard enough. Speaking of learning from failure, Check out Evaleen – From Rags to Riches: http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx
Even if you don’t say a word, people can sense if you don’t like them or are judging them harshly. Better to think positive about them if you possibly can, especially if you must deal with them on a regular basis.
You can choose to be happy and have an attitude of gratitude or you can concentrate on the negative and moan about your fate. We all have good and bad in our lives. Happiness is a choice.
Small gestures can send big signals about who we are, what we care about, and why people should want to affiliate with us. It’s harder (and more important) to be kind than to be clever.
Happy holidays and don’t forget to be kind to yourself too.
It’s okay to be scared and uncertain. It just means you are in a period of change when anything can happen. Uncertainty is a necessary part of getting where you want to go.
What upsets you today could change tomorrow. Acting on an initial emotion often leads us to do things we regret and can cause trouble later. Give yourself time to reflect before jumping to conclusions.
You can’t please everybody any more than you can like everybody. Nor by the same token, can everybody please you or like you. Those are just the facts of life. Best to face it, learn whatever you can from it, and move on. Life is way too short to worry about things you can do nothing about.
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She also said that vulnerability is about showing up and letting yourself be seen for who you really are. It’s tough to do when we’re terrified about what people might say or think. But by letting people see who you really are, your life could be incredibly enriched.
Everyone I have ever known has had problems in their family and in their life. In addition, there will always be people who do not approve of you. It’s just life. Don’t let that stop you from becoming who you want to become.
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But you can’t choose both. It’s a lot easier to do nothing than it is to actually stick your neck out and take a chance, but if you you don’t try, for sure nothing will happen.
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Lying to ourselves or others; Constantly seeking validation from others; Talking or thinking negatively; Tolerating people, things or situations that are bad for us;, Having ridiculous expecations of ourselves or others; Taking life too seriously.
These are also some major ways to make you fail in life in general.
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Ask yourself what is and isn’t working for you. And if something isn’t working, make an effort to try something else.
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According to Stables, a liar will always avoid answering a simple yes or no question. Also in his book are some strategies to box a liar in and force an answer that may also reveal if someone is telling you a lie.
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This comes from an interview she did on 60 minutes. Coming from the rough and tumble world of the Bronx, she is a living example of what being stubborn about trying can do.
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If you are becoming obsessed with negative thoughts about someone, try following your negative thought with a positive one about them if you possibly can. People can sense when you don’t like them and sometimes you have to deal with them no matter how you feel. Try this and see if it changes the dynamic between you. If nothing else, you will feel better.
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As Dale Carnegie also said, “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
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