#252 – “If you express yourself too much, you’re considered weak.” ― Sylvester Stallone

Something to consider when you have the urge to blurt out your truth to just anybody.

Check out my e-book, Evaleen from Rags To Riches about someone who learns to control her emotions and her words on her path to success.

Evaleen From Rags to Riches:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

 

 

 

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#251 – I realized that if I wanted to keep my sanity and not let others define me, there was only one thing I could do and that was to have faith in God’s plan for me.” Michelle Obama

After enduring constant criticism and finding it difficult to tune it all out, Michelle Obama realized she had to ignore the noise and be true to herself.

Two of my e-books are about women who struggle mightily to be true to themselves. .

Evaleen From Rags to Richeshttp://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx and Charlotte Parker  – Forty Niner  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#250 – “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Abundance can be in relationships, financial, productivity, spiritual, on and on.  We all have so much more than we know.

 

 

 

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#249 – To have loved and to be loved and to be a sentient being is most important in life. Oliver Sacks.

He also stated that his three greatest challenges in his life were bonding, belonging and believing. He is currently fighting a battle with liver cancer and according to an essay he wrote in the New York Times, has only months to live. Dr. Sacks, is a professor of Neurology and author of several books about the connection between the brain, the mind, and the imagination. On the Move, A Life is his latest book.

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#248 – Whatever is going on in your life, don’t give up because the finish line is a great place to be.” Rebekah Gregory

Rebekah Gregory, a victim of the Boston Marathon bombing in 2013, spent 56 days in the hospital and underwent 13 surgeries to save her lower left leg, although she ended up losing it and now wears a prothesis, Nevertheless, she ran again this year and manaaged to cross the finish line.

Speaking of never ever giving up, check out my e-book, Evaleen from Rags to Riches. It’s a work of fiction and contains much of what I’ve learned about succeeding in work and in life in spite of great obstacles.  It’s available at:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx..

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#247 – Leave God a little room to come through.” Quincy Jones

When Quincy Jones is putting together a song, he leaves 20 to 30 pecent for inspiration.   This basically means, think hard, do everything you can think of to do, then basically relax and think about something else. That’s often when the real creativity happens.

Check out my short story:  Dreams Come Due. Available at: http://tinyurl.com/oec46us

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#246 – On the worst days of our lives, there is also something to enjoy.

Proust writes in Swann’s Way about the day Swann’s beloved wife died and how shocked he is to discover himself enjoying the beautiful spring day.   Such is life.

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#245 – Mental strength and a positive attitude are vital to success. Stephen Madden

Mental strength is as important as a positive attitude. It takes mental strength to keep from cracking under pressure. This comes from a course taught by former Navy seal, Commander Mark Divine.  He also includes self awareness and compassion for your teammates as other important attributes of mental toughness.

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#244 – “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou

Try something new today to shake you out of your rut. Doesn’t have to be big, just something different from your usual routine, something that takes a little courage.

Check out my brand new short story, Dreams Come Due on Amazon.

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#243 – “Perfect is the enemy of the good.” Voltaire

Increasing your effort to be perfect often results in diminishing returns.  So take it easy on yourself. Do your best and then let it go.

Running Away to Santa Fe: – http://tinyurl.com/856ksgv – the story of an angry housewife who decides she’s had enough..

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#242 – “You become the average of the five people you spend your time with.” Jim Rohn

Enough said.

Check out my book, Charlotte Parker  – Forty Niner  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

On the cover is my hard working grandmother who ran a boarding house.

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#241 – Accepting, allowing, and interacting with your life as though it is exactly as it should be, without making yourself wrong (or right) for what you discover is the way to Self-Realization.” ~Ariel Kane

When you’re confused about what to do next, fully surrendering to the possibilities will help you see a clear path ahead.   Probably best said that if you don’t know what to do, do nothing, but if you do know what to do next, do it now and usually the next step will be shown to you.

A good example of someone who does this is in my book, Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner.   http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

 

 

 

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#240 – Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Ann Landers

“Raise the rent and kick them out,” she also said.  Toxic people can do a lot of damage to your self esteem if you let them.

 

Check out my e-book about a woman who struggles with her self esteem to become someone she can be proud of.  Evaleen From Rags to Riches:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

 

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#239 – Believing that you are enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. Brene Brown

Belonging starts with self acceptance.  The more you are comfortable with who you are, the less likely you will feel the need to impress others.

Check out my e-book, Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner at:  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#238 – “Resentment marks the place where I see myself as a victim.” Courage to Change

Let your resentments go because they cost you too much in self esteem.  Instead of obsessing about or trying to change someone, concentrate on yourself and what you need to change.  Pray also that the person in question be given the love, serenity and joy you want for yourself.  I personally find this particular tip to be life changing.

 

 

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#237 – Questions to ask yourself for a personal mission statement: New York Times, Science Section 1/6/2015

How do you want to be remembered? How do you want people to describe you? Who do you want to be? Who or what matters most to you? What are your deepest values? How would you define success in your life? What makes your life really worth living?

These questions are the kinds of questions that can change your life.

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#236 – Don’t let your emotions rule you.

Never let them see you sweat. It seems to me that the people who succeed in a big way, are able to remain calm, cool and utterly themselves, at least outwardly.  I was reminded of this when watching Carrie Underwood at her audition for America’s Got Talent in 2005.  See it at:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOlrEFQ24SM.

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#235 – It’s not enough to imagine success; you must also see the barriers. Gabrielle Oettingen

In her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking, she suggests something she calls mental contrast whereby you imagine success but also imagine several of your own behaviours that could keep you from succeeding.  What she discovered was that the students who did the mental contrast out performed those who did positive thinking alone. Obviously being mindful not just of your dreams but also of the real barriers that you or the world places in your way, is a far more effective way of achieving your goals.

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Sandra

 

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#234 – Stop hoping that other people will change. Courage to Change

Resentments of others makes you feel like a victim and costs you self esteem.  Instead of focusing on others whom you can do nothing about, change your own thinking.  It helps to have a few positive thinking mantras such as, “I am a worthy person and I deserve to be treated well,”  that you can repeat to yourself when you find yourself obsessing about someone or something you cannot change.

 

 

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#233 – “Work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen.” Conon O’Brien.

Simply put, do your best and don’t worry about the outcome.

Read my latest e-book:  Charlotte Parker – 49er.  I think you’ll enjoy it.  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#229 – “Gratitude listing “rewires your brain, allowing it to actually work more optimistically and more successfully” Shawn Achor

Gratitude listing is a simple five-minute habit anyone can adopt that can make you a happier person. and happier people attract the best of everything life has to offer.   Listing five things you are grateful for every morning before that first cup of coffee is a great way to start your day.

Check out my e-book, Charlotte Parker – 49er at: http://www.amazon.com/Charlotte-Parker-Forty-Sandra-Rector-ebook/dp/B009GIYNVE

 

 

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#232 – Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ~Winston Churchill

Add to that another old saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”

What’s so interesting to me, is often winners I have known are not aware when they have succeeded because they are so busy plugging along, simply doing what they need to do next.

 

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#231 – If you want to keep a relationship going, you have to put the energy in.

This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why.  He puts in the energy.  His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends.   It’s easy not to and most people won’t, but if you want to have friends, it is up to you, not them to keep the friendship going.

Conversely, waking up each day and devoting yourself to being kind, even and especially to people who are not kind to you, is actually incredibly difficult. It is arduous and deliberate work, and the doing of it will at times make you feel small and foolish. What’s more, in the end, it will on its own merits almost never yield a person awards or honors or riches.   But it is important work and needs to be done for its own sake.

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#230 – “Money is power, freedom, a cushion, the root of all evil, the sum of blessings”. Carl Sandburg

Treat money with respect.  Fight the urge to spend your money on things you don’t need or will lose interest in quickly.  There’s no misery like being broke.  Knowing you can pay the rent and buy groceries for months to come is worth more than buying something you want but don’t  need right now.

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#229 – Don’t Go Anywhere With Money in Your Pocket Looking for Something to Buy” T. Boone Pickens

Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash.  By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at home, you won’t have to fight the urge while buying time to decide if you really want that thing or not.

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#227 – “Don’t Take Anything Personally” Don Miguel Ruiz

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.  If you can become immune to the opinions of others, you will save yourself from needless suffering.

Check out my book about a young woman who struggles against great odds to follow her own dreams.

Evaleen from Rags to Riches: http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

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#226 – “When the solution is simple, God is answering.” Albert Einstein

It doesn’t mean the simple answer is the easy or painless one, but it is the one that resonates with the deepest part of who we are. As human beings, we intuitively know if something works for us or not, or if we like something or someone or not.

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#225 – We have the power to direct our minds to replace the feelings of being upset, depressed, and fearful with the feeling of inner peace. –Gerald G. Jampolsky

Change the way you think  by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This  can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.

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#224 – Happy accidents have a way of changing your life for the good.

The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to be out there working for it to happen.

Read my e-book Evaleen from Rags to Riches.  She also had a few happy accidents.  Available at:   http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

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#223 – “Those who listen well may reap both informational and relational benefits that make them more influential.” Journal of Research in Personality – Columbia University

When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers.  The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and learning new information.

Read the adventures of a woman who made it the hard way at:

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#222 – The Secret to Getting Rich is Great Savings Habits. Jonathan Clements

Most wealthy Americans get there by saving diligently month by month.   Something to remember when you’re tempted to spend your money on something you don’t need and that will give you little pleasure in the long run.

 

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#221 – Dare to be different, to be wrong, to look wrong.” Howard Marks, Billionaire Investor

If you want great results, you have to take a chance  on all of the above.

Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, a work of fiction who does all of the above and more in her effort to succeed.

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#220 – The way we think determines who we are and what happens to us. From: The Reflecting Pond

Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so,  replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones.  What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being upset about people or things I can do nothing about,  the happier and more peaceful I am.

Check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches.  It’s about a young woman who struggles to succeed in spite of really difficult circumstances.  It’s available on Amazon at:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

 

 

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#219 – Those who go out of their way to listen to what others are saying, experience greater success. Dr. Adam Grant

If you want to make a good impression,  practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you.   This alone will make you stand out.

 

 

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#216 – You only lose what you cling to: Buddha

According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things.   By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace.

Peace to you today.

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#215 – Failure is not the opposite of success but a stepping stone to success. Arianna Huffington

“It’s okay to try things and fail,” she said, stating on “Katie” that some of her biggest successes appeared to be huge failures at first.

Check out my book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, for the story of someone who personifies this tip.

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#214 – “Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness” – A Course In Miracles

The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be.   Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own peace of mind.

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213 – Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu

There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone.  Avoid them if you possibly can.

check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches,  a work of fiction about a young woman’s journey to become successful both in her private life and in business in spite of her terrible circumstances.    http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

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#212 – Trust Your Stuff – common baseball saying

When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to be where you are.

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#211 – “Embrace Your Mistakes” – Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx

According to a University of Colorado Denver  study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they  learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer.   Or as that old saying goes, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”   Good luck!

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#210 – “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” Will Smith

There will always be someone who doesn’t like you or approve of you at one time or another.  “Don’t get too affected by them or even allow them to bring you down. Just let it go, and move on with life. Let God, or if you don’t believe in God, let the universe deal with them on its own.” This from Will Smith.

Check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches to see how she deals with this problem.

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#209 – If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Mary Engelbreit

When I get to obsessing about something that I can do nothing about, I do simple math problems in my head. This changes my focus from the right side of the brain (the feeling, intuitive side) to the left side of the brain (the detail-oriented, logic side). The result is usually peace and a good night’s sleep. Give it a try and see if this works for you when thinking about someone or something is keeping you up nights.

Check out my e-book Evaleen – From Rags to Riches available at:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

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#208 – Don’t rush to judgement.

First impressions are not always correct. Friendships, love affairs and relationships in general take time to develop.

 

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#207 – “You don’t have to get it right the first time.” Jane Pauley

The brain learns from failure. If you never had any failure in your life, you probably weren’t trying hard enough.  Speaking of learning from failure, Check out Evaleen – From Rags to Riches: http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx

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#206 – a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. Napoleon Hill

Even if you don’t say a word, people can sense if you don’t like them or are judging them harshly.    Better to think positive about them if you possibly can, especially if you must deal with them on a regular basis.

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#205 – “People are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” Abraham Lincoln

You can choose to be happy and have an attitude of gratitude or you can concentrate on the negative and moan about your fate.  We all have good and bad in our lives. Happiness is a choice.

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#204 – Help Yourself by Being Kind – Bill Taylor

Small gestures can send big signals about who we are, what we care about, and why people should want to affiliate with us. It’s harder (and more important) to be kind than to be clever.

Happy holidays and don’t forget to be kind to yourself too.

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#203 – “It’s normal to feel vulnerable when you’re in a period of change.” Brene Brown

It’s okay to be scared and uncertain. It just means you are in a period of change when anything can happen. Uncertainty is a necessary part of getting where you want to go.

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#202 – “Don’t let your emotions rule you.” Warren Buffet

What upsets you today could change tomorrow.   Acting on an initial emotion often leads us to do things we regret and can cause trouble later.    Give yourself time to reflect before jumping to conclusions.

 

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#201 – “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

You can’t please everybody any more than you can like everybody. Nor by the same token, can everybody please you or  like you. Those are just the facts of life. Best to face it, learn whatever you can from it,  and move on.  Life is way too short to worry about things you can do nothing about.

 Check out my e-book: Evaleen – From Rags to Riches now available on Amazon at: http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx  

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#200 – How you stand displays your power or lack of power. Dana R. Carney, Amy J.C. Cuddy, Andy J Yap

“That a person can, by assuming two simple 1-min poses, embody power and instantly become more powerful has real-world, actionable implications. Go  to the following website to see both high power and low power poses.

http://www.people.hbs.edu/acuddy/in%20press,%20carney,%20cuddy,%20&%20yap,%20psych%20science.pdf

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#199 – “Being vulnerable is the magic sauce that holds relationships together.” Brene Brown

She also said that vulnerability is about showing up and letting yourself be seen for who you really are. It’s tough to do when we’re terrified about what people might say or think.   But by letting people see who you really are, your life could be incredibly enriched.

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