#69 – If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Mary Engelbreit

 When I get to obsessing about something that I can do nothing about, I do simple math problems in my head.  This changes my focus from the right side of the brain (the feeling, intuitive side) to the left side of the brain (the detail-oriented, logic side).   The result is usually peace and a good night’s sleep.  Give it a try and see if this works for you when thinking about someone or something is keeping you up nights. 
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About sand1

When I was young, I made a lot of bad choices. The only way I knew to dig myself and my family out was to go to the library, always hoping that the next book I read would change my life and thankfully, often many of them did. Out of gratitude for the happy life I have now, I decided to share what I have learned, and continue to learn. I hope that Tuesday Tips helps you as much as they have helped and continue to help me. Sand
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14 Responses to #69 – If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Mary Engelbreit

  1. aporia says:

    Seems useful :]

  2. sand1 says:

    Thanks. I just hope it helps.


  3. mspennylane says:

    I’m going to try this one. Something I have a problem with is just not letting go of thoughts going round my head, so hopefully this will help 🙂

  4. sand1 says:

    It’s not always easy to stop those thoughts going round and round. Sometimes if I don’t want to do math problems, I’ll just say a number like one, one, one, one. I think everyone has this problem sometimes. Thanks for the feedback.


  5. Edith says:

    “If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
    Maya Angelou

  6. sand1 says:

    Good one, Edith. Thanks. Amazing how many people say the same exact thing and just change a few words. I like the “don’t complain” or as one other wag put it, “Never complain, never explain.” Easier said than done, of course, but definitely worth trying.


  7. Kayci says:

    You didn’t say that, Maya Angelou did!!!

    • sand1 says:

      Maya Angelou and Oprah and Mary Engelbreit and probably some Greek philosopher said it as well as several other people. Mary Englebreit was the one I found that day. The thought is not original.

  8. You my good friend are a genius

  9. Your blog was helpful and I liked how you composed it. Thanks. I will be reading more in the future.

  10. sand1 says:

    Thanks to you all. It means a lot to me to hear what you have to say. My initial goal in writing the blog was to help myself and others. That remains my goal even now a few years later. And it’s wonderful when it actually happens.

  11. luljeta says:

    this is so helpful to me 🙂 thanks

    • sand1 says:

      Sorry I’m so late in responding but just wanted you to know that this is one of my favorites too. I discovered that I really am in charge of what I think and I don’t need to think about what will ultimately hurt me.
      Thanks for caring.


  12. sand1 says:

    My latest practice is if I know that something is going to hurt my feelings and it is not something I can learn from or change, I use this tactic to avoid thinking about it. Life is way too short and I don’t want to waste a minute being unhappy if it serves no purpose.

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