I wrote this when I was in my fifties after dealing with both my mother and my mother-in-law. I revisisted this list recently and now at 73, I am trying to take my own advice.
Keep your aches and pains to yourself unless you’re in need of immediate help.
If you need daily help, try to spread it out among more than one person so that one person does not become resentful.
Always try to do your share and hold up your half.
Don’t forget to say please and thank you.
Do your best to plan financially for your old age.
Don’t pretend you’re 20 years younger than you are.
Don’t dress like you’re 20 years younger than you are.
Do not discuss the past endlessly.
If someone does something nice for you try to do something nice for them in return.
Try not to repeat yourself. Be aware of the social cues such as the bored look, the raised eyebrow that says that they have heard this before.
Do not wear low necked clothes. After a certain age, it is not dignified or flattering.
Keep careful track of your money and what you are charging on your credit cards.