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#284 – A surplus of effort can overcome a deficit of confidence. Sonia Sotomayor, Supreme Court Justice

This is the sort of information that contributed heavily to Sonia Sotomayor becoming a supreme court judge.   When she became a federal judge in 1992, she says she was so terrified, that her knees were literally knocking together.  She … Continue reading

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#282 – “Don’t think don’t think. Just do the work.” Bette Midler

Don’t over think, don’t worry or doubt whether what you’re doing is good or not, just forge ahead and do the work. By the way – Happy Holidays.    I love doing Tuesday Tips.  They keep me going and hope … Continue reading

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#281 – “Write a day in your life five years from now.” Sarah Little Turnbull

Write down where you live, where you work, whether you have kids, and  try to describe an ordinary day. This will help you think what is possible for you. Check out my latest e-book, Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger.  http://tinyurl.com/d67mzt6

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#280 – You’re always responsible for the effort — not the outcome. Mary Jo Copeland, Founder, Sharing and Caring Hands.Org

You aren’t in charge of the outcome.  All you can do is make the effort and hope for the best. Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger http://tinyurl.com/anabr4o

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#279 – Advice from young me to old me. Sandra Rector

I wrote this when I was in my fifties after dealing with both my mother and my mother-in-law. I revisisted this list  recently and now at 73, I am trying to take my own advice. Keep your aches and pains to yourself … Continue reading

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#275 – If you could do one thing, what would it be? Jerry Yang, Yahoo

Something to ask yourself when there is too much going on, too many things to do. This is a way that you can focus on what’s really important.  “You can’t rationalize the answer and you can’t attach it to some … Continue reading

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#270 – Most important thing I’ve learned.

Be kind. If you are cruel to someone, it will haunt you in later years. Hopefully you will not become old before you figure this out.  This is my last post. It’s been a wonderful reminder to me what I know … Continue reading

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#268 – To lose weight, slow down your eating. From: I Can Make You Thin by Paul McKenna

Slow down your eating and lose weight. Continue reading

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#267 – I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I had to do it for a lifetime.” From: Just for Today

There are times when you simply have to do what you have to do whether you like it or not.  When that happens, it helps me to remember that you can’t stop the clock, that time really does move on and that tomorrow is a … Continue reading

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#266 – “Write down 3-4 things you did today and 3-4 things you plan to do tomorrow. Terry Tietzen

Write down what you did today and what you plan to accomplish tomorrow. Continue reading

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#265 – Before you begin talking about yourself, ask the other person three things about themselves. Anonymous

When you listen and pay attention to someone, chances are you are also making  the other person  feel worthy, appreciated, and respected, which in turn makes you look good.  Something else to know – if you’re doing all the talking, you’re not learning … Continue reading

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#264 – Winners do things that losers are afraid to do. Ed Foreman

Ed Foreman also said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. It takes courage to step out the door when what you really want to do is stay home and watch television.  But if … Continue reading

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#263 – Don’t Call it Love – Patrick Carnes

Actions that hurt you are not loving and actions that are loving do not hurt you. Real loves care for each other and have each other’s best interest at heart. Infatuation is about excitement.  Evaleen the Queen by Sandra Rector   Running-Away-to-Santa-Fe … Continue reading

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#262 – “Most people actually become happier after a certain age. Thrive: Finding Happiness in the Blue Zones by Dan Buettner

Studies have shown that, despite the popular belief that nobody wants to get older, most people actually become happier after a certain age.   I know as I age, I am a lot more able to let hurt feelings go and simply enjoy what is like … Continue reading

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#261 – Thinking about yourself in the third person can be a direct path to self-knowledge. The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.

This prompts people to think of themselves as someone else, rather than tied up in our usual insecurities and emotional baggage. Example: Feeling depleted, she asks herself “What would Gretchen do?”    Check out my e-book, Evaleen the Queen, a tale of a young woman’s … Continue reading

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#260 – Top five tips for a happy marriage. From: Cornell University’s Legacy Project

#260 – To have a happy marriage, marry someone like you and other tips. Continue reading

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#259 – It’s always sunny above the clouds. Anonymous

If bad things have happened to you or are happening to you right now, consider intentionally trying to be kinder or more compassionate with yourself.  It also helps me to remember that no matter how horrendous life seems at the time, … Continue reading

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#258 – Your job is to make your boss look good – Peter Johnson

And if your boss does not give you credit, then it’s time to find a new boss.    Complaining about your boss does nothing except make you look bad.  Sorry I’m late with this, I was out of town.

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#257 – “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” William Ward

A  handwritten thank you note stands a much better chance of being retained and staying in someone’s mind for much longer than an e-mail.  So if you want to stand out in someone’s mind, write a hand written thank you note when someone does … Continue reading

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#256 – Drink more water – The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer by Dan Buettner

Water helps to reduce inflamation in the body and extend life. A German study also found that drinking 17 ounces of water (a little more than two cups) can increase calorie-blasting 24 percent.  The general recommendation is to drink eight eight ounce … Continue reading

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#255 – A satisying marriage is a result when partners are similar and share the same values and goals. “Happiness Advice from Life’s Graying Edge” by Jane Brody, NY Times,D7 January 10, 2012

What I have learned over the years is that excitement is not love and that for a marriage to last, friendship, mutual respect, common interests, a willingness to give and take and admit it when you’re wrong as well as a deep love and … Continue reading

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#254 – The essentials to happiness are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. Immanuel Kant, philosopher

Once you have the basic essentials to life, which are air, water, food, shelter and clothing, then it’s time to work on having a good life. I found out a long time ago that having material things, unless they add comfort or quality … Continue reading

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#253 – Instead of saying no, say this doesn’t work for me. from: The Power of a Positive No by William Ury

Ury recommends coming up with the above phrase to help you stand your ground. Two other possibile phrases you can use,  “I prefer not to,” or “I’m no longer willing to do that.” Repeat as needed. If you’ve been slow to … Continue reading

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#252 – “What we appreciate appreciates.” M J Ryan

 According to a Neuroscience study you can tune your own brain to joy by simply counting your blessings. When you experience any positive emotion, including gratitude, your brain actually functions better. I tried this when feeling down and was amazed … Continue reading

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#251 – What you think of me is none of my business – Terri Whittaker

The truth is, it is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. If we can separate ourselves from our ego, we can stop taking everything so personally. When I get to worrying about what other people think, it helps to remind myself … Continue reading

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#250 – Enjoy Every Sandwich, a book by Lee Lipsenthal

Studies prove that older people are happier than younger people and as I grow older myself, I’m beginning to understand why. Time is too precious to waste it with the haters or the chronic complainers or worry about what people … Continue reading

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#249 – “Live without expecting too much from others.” From: Walk in Dry Places by Mel B.

People are not here to please or satisfy us, nor do they owe us anything. Our personal responsibility is to do our best even when others fall short of our expectations.  Being reliable and dependable ourselves helps us to grow and become … Continue reading

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#248 – A Serving of Gratitude May Save the Day – John Tierny, New York Times

“Cultivating an attitude of gratitude has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, less anxiety and depression, higher long term satisfaction with life and kinder behaviour to others, including romantic partners,” Tierny says in todays article in the New York … Continue reading

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#247 – Choose the things that make you feel good about who you are, that you can be proud of. From: Life Lessons by Elisabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler

Identify three things you liked and three things you disliked about all your past jobs. Then ask yourself why you liked or disliked them. Your unique strengths and skills will start to emerge very clearly.   Evaleen the Queen, a tale … Continue reading

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#246 – “If you tell the truth, everything will work out.” Tom Hanks

 Incidentally a few ways to tell if someone is lying to you from Bill Brown, a former FBI agent.  Liars are nervous, will try to change the conversation,  cover their  mouth, and will look away then right back at you to … Continue reading

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#245 – “Change your focus, and you change your level of happiness” Anthony Robbins

Giving into your negative, self destructive thoughts is damaging to you and you alone.  How much better we would all be if we could switch our focus to something positive or at least neutral, especially when we’re obsessing about something we … Continue reading

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#244 – “Focus on what you can accomplish rather than obstacles.” Outswimming the Sharks by Harvey McKay

 It’s easy to become overwhelmed by the demands of a long term project.  Thanks to my brother Terry and his advice to do a project little by little instead of all at once, I have managed to finish big projects like writing books and smaller … Continue reading

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#242 – Know how to listen, and you will profit even from those who talk badly. Plutarch 120 AD

To focus your attention when someone is speaking to you, clasp your hands together, thus preparing your body and mind to listen.  By doing so, you are switching from talking, doing, or living in your head to listening.   I see listening as a way to … Continue reading

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#241 – “Most folks are as happy as they make up their mind to be.” Abraham Lincoln

You are in charge of what’s going on in your own head. Don’t let your negative thoughts sink you.  Just for today, choose to be happy.    Check out my e-book Evaleen the Queen at http://goo.gl/AQlat,  an inspirational work of fiction  about a … Continue reading

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#240 – “Sometimes you have to be willing to fake it.” George Clooney

Sometimes you have to be willing to fake it. Continue reading

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#239 – Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own voice. Steve Jobs.

In an incredible talk given at the Ted conference, Steve Jobs talks about how important it is to listen to yourself, pursue your dreams and look at life’s setback as a gift.     http://www.ted.com/talks/steve_jobs_how_to_live_before_you_die.htm Check out my e-book, Evaleen the Queen, an inspirational … Continue reading

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#223 – “The only way to fix anything is one step at a time.” PMF Johnson, longtime computer programmer

Start with the most likely possibility and work your way down.  Don’t forget that more than one thing can be wrong at a time.  We recently solved a plumbing problem this way ourselves, after spending a small fortune twice to get someone … Continue reading

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#222 – Trust but verify – Ronald Reagan

Assume the best until proven otherwise.  But don’t rely solely on someone’s word.  It takes time to build trust on both sides.  There are some things that can’t be hurried.  Also, as Oprah has said many times, “If someone tells you who they are, believe them … Continue reading

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#221 – “Part of being a leader requires that you speak up and take a chance.” Robert Gates – Secretary of Defense

“To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing,” he also said. This was his sharp reply to  Katy Couric’s question on Sixty Minutes — “You’ve ruffled a few feathers. What do you say when people criticize  you?” It might help to ask yourself … Continue reading

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#152 – We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. Albert Einstein

 As a writer, I have learned the hard way that the first five story ideas I come up with are usually old and tired. It’s only when I push for the sixth or seventh idea that I can even hope … Continue reading

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#151 – Focus on one thing at a time

Suze Orman, financial advice expert, has no assistant, no permanent employees and answers all her own e-mails.  She gets an immense amount of work done every day by getting rid of all distractions and simply focusing on one thing at a time.  Thanks to … Continue reading

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#149 – Speed-eaters are twice as likely to be overweight as those who munch leisurely.

Speed-eaters are twice as likely to be overweight. Continue reading

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#148 – “The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody.” From the book, Love. The Words and Inspiration of Mother Teresa

“The biggest disease is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody.” Continue reading

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#147 – “To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves — there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.” Joan Didion

And while you’re at it, give yourself the gift of not expecting people to be who you want them to be. Assume they’re not going to change and love them anyway. Happy holidays and love to you on this icy … Continue reading

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#146 – Give Yourself a Reward for Every Accomplishment Big and Small.

Peter and I celebrate with a small gift and a special dinner whenever either one of us accomplishes anything we consider worthwhile. It could be a sale of a poem or a short story, another thousand hits on my blog … Continue reading

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#142 – Don’t argue and don’t raise your voice. Instead listen, ask, mirror and reflect back what you’ve heard. From: Just Listen. Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone by Mark Goulson

The author, a psychiatrist, draws on hostage-negotiation techniques to instruct readers on how to deal with angry bosses or self destructive management teams. Being listened to and acknowledged is a good thing for everyone.. Love to you all on this hauntingly … Continue reading

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#141 – Choose the things that make you feel good about who you are, that you can be proud of. From: Life Lessons by Elisabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler

Be good, be happy. Continue reading

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#140 – Find Something to Love About Each Person, Volume 2 From: The Right Words at the Right Time by Marlo Thomas p. 236

Find something to love about each person. Continue reading

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#118 – Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. From: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

To build trust and be a person of integrity, be careful when you give your word that you really mean what you are saying. Know that most of the time what people think has everything to do with them and … Continue reading

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#117 – Definiition of Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein

When the underdog David chose not to play by Goliath’s rules, he won.  Like David, an unconventional strategy can give you a much better chance of winning.  Interesting article about this in the May 11, 2009 New Yorker, “How David Beat Goliath – When an Underdog Breaks … Continue reading

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#116 – “Look for the good in every situation.” Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Look for the good in every situation. Continue reading

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#115 – “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” Robert Collier, author of The Secret of the Ages

What might you accomplish if you did five things every day in the  years to come towards a big goal of yours?  If five is too many, try two or three.  According to  Robert Collier, the principle of doing something … Continue reading

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