Category Archives: kindness and compassion

#280 – “Look into the mirror and say I love you, I really love you.” Christiane Northrup

According to Ms. Northrup, if you do this for 30 days, it will change your life.  She also says, when you are having a problem, she believes in saying this prayer, “I can’t do this on my own, You take … Continue reading

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278 – “When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointments.” ~Unknown

To expect loved ones or friends to act in a certain way is to become frustrated and hurt.  Give yourself the gift of peace of mind by accepting them as they are, warts and all, and then turning it over … Continue reading

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#277 – Rewire your brain by recalling 3 things you are grateful for. Author unknown.

Interesting how much harder we are on ourselves with our negative thinking and self criticism than anybody else could ever be.  It helps me to come up with a positive phrase such as,  “I am healthy, I am happy, I … Continue reading

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#275 – Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. Viktor E. Frankl

Frankl, a victim of the holocaust, whose wife was killed, chose to remember her love and let that be his guiding light and strength rather than to let himself be filled with hate.  Like Frankl, we are all in charge … Continue reading

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#273 -Buy wonderful companies at wonderful prices and hold them forever. – Warren Buffett’s Golden Rule for Investing in the stock market

One of his rules is to buy stock in companies that he personally understands and to keep the stock for a long time. “Time is the friend of the wonderful company,” he has often said. Also important to learn about … Continue reading

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#272 -How You Address Yourself Has an Enormous Affect on Your Success. Psychology Today May/June 2015

In a series of ground breaking experiments Ethan Kross, Nobel Prize winner, discovered that how people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. According to Kross, by addressing yourself by your name instead of … Continue reading

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#271 – Never let what anyone says distract you from your goals. Michelle Obama

“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really … Continue reading

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#270 – Trade your expectation for appreciation and your whole world changes. Tony Robbins

Such a small thing to do for such a big outcome.

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#269 – You don’t have to forget to forgive.

Forgiving someone is your gift to you, a way of freeing your mind. Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#267 – “No matter what the situation is, all will be well.” Oprah

Or as she says, “this too shall pass.” She says these words give her comfort. They give me comfort too and I hope they do the same for you.

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#265 – Happiness is Two Kinds of Ice Cream: From: Happiness by Lea Salonga

Happiness can always be found in the small things that surround us every single day if we simply pay attention. Read my book, Evaleen from Rags to Riches and find out how Evaleen discovers the true key to happiness. It’s … Continue reading

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#263 – Forgiveness is the key to happiness. From: The Course of Miracles

Forgiving someone who has harmed you is not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind. When you refuse to forgive someone who has hurt you, you literally keep the hurt alive. Try coming up with a positive … Continue reading

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#262 – Take a few moments to become silent and listen for directions from your higher self. From: Your Sacred Self: Making the Decision to be Free by Wayne Dyer

Sometimes it’s a good idea to simply stop, become quiet and listen to what’s going on inside of you. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you irritated? What’s cluttering up your mind right now and what might you think … Continue reading

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#261 -Practice the discipline of gratitude: Henri Nouwen

Hillary Clinton said this is her favorite quote of all time. “Regardless of how hard the day is, how difficult the decisions are, be grateful,” she said. “Be grateful that you have to reach out, be grateful for your critics, … Continue reading

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#260 – Stop Letting People Who Do So Little For You Control Your Mind. Will Smith

It helps me to say the serenity prayer when this happens to me. It goes like this. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (other people), the courage to change the things I can (myself) … Continue reading

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#256 – Be present and be grateful – Gwen Stefani

This helps me to remember to be present and to be grateful for what is rather than to spend precious time worrying about circumstances and people I can do nothing about. Running Away to Santa Fe: – http://tinyurl.com/856ksgv     … Continue reading

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#255 – “What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer

When someone says something hurtful to you and you obsess about it, the sooner you  stop giving that person free rent in your head, the happier you will be.  Come up with something positive to say to yourself when you … Continue reading

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#252 – “If you express yourself too much, you’re considered weak.” ― Sylvester Stallone

Something to consider when you have the urge to blurt out your truth to just anybody. Check out my e-book, Evaleen from Rags To Riches about someone who learns to control her emotions and her words on her path to … Continue reading

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#250 – “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Abundance can be in relationships, financial, productivity, spiritual, on and on.  We all have so much more than we know.      

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#248 – Whatever is going on in your life, don’t give up because the finish line is a great place to be.” Rebekah Gregory

Never, ever, ever, give up. Continue reading

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#247 – Leave God a little room to come through.” Quincy Jones

When Quincy Jones is putting together a song, he leaves 20 to 30 pecent for inspiration.   This basically means, think hard, do everything you can think of to do, then basically relax and think about something else. That’s often … Continue reading

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#246 – On the worst days of our lives, there is also something to enjoy.

Proust writes in Swann’s Way about the day Swann’s beloved wife died and how shocked he is to discover himself enjoying the beautiful spring day.   Such is life.

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#245 – Mental strength and a positive attitude are vital to success. Stephen Madden

Mental strength is as important as a positive attitude. It takes mental strength to keep from cracking under pressure. This comes from a course taught by former Navy seal, Commander Mark Divine.  He also includes self awareness and compassion for … Continue reading

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#244 – “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou

Try something new today to shake you out of your rut. Doesn’t have to be big, just something different from your usual routine, something that takes a little courage. Check out my brand new short story, Dreams Come Due on … Continue reading

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#243 – “Perfect is the enemy of the good.” Voltaire

Increasing your effort to be perfect often results in diminishing returns.  So take it easy on yourself. Do your best and then let it go. Running Away to Santa Fe: – http://tinyurl.com/856ksgv – the story of an angry housewife who decides … Continue reading

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#242 – “You become the average of the five people you spend your time with.” Jim Rohn

Enough said. Check out my book, Charlotte Parker  – Forty Niner  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2 On the cover is my hard working grandmother who ran a boarding house.

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#241 – Accepting, allowing, and interacting with your life as though it is exactly as it should be, without making yourself wrong (or right) for what you discover is the way to Self-Realization.” ~Ariel Kane

When you’re confused about what to do next, fully surrendering to the possibilities will help you see a clear path ahead.   Probably best said that if you don’t know what to do, do nothing, but if you do know … Continue reading

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#240 – Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Ann Landers

“Raise the rent and kick them out,” she also said.  Toxic people can do a lot of damage to your self esteem if you let them.   Check out my e-book about a woman who struggles with her self esteem … Continue reading

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#239 – Believing that you are enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. Brene Brown

Belonging starts with self acceptance.  The more you are comfortable with who you are, the less likely you will feel the need to impress others. Check out my e-book, Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner at:  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#238 – “Resentment marks the place where I see myself as a victim.” Courage to Change

Let your resentments go because they cost you too much in self esteem.  Instead of obsessing about or trying to change someone, concentrate on yourself and what you need to change.  Pray also that the person in question be given … Continue reading

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#237 – Questions to ask yourself for a personal mission statement: New York Times, Science Section 1/6/2015

How do you want to be remembered? How do you want people to describe you? Who do you want to be? Who or what matters most to you? What are your deepest values? How would you define success in your … Continue reading

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#236 – Don’t let your emotions rule you.

Never let them see you sweat. It seems to me that the people who succeed in a big way, are able to remain calm, cool and utterly themselves, at least outwardly.  I was reminded of this when watching Carrie Underwood … Continue reading

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#235 – It’s not enough to imagine success; you must also see the barriers. Gabrielle Oettingen

In her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking, she suggests something she calls mental contrast whereby you imagine success but also imagine several of your own behaviours that could keep you from succeeding.  What she discovered was that the students who did … Continue reading

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#234 – Stop hoping that other people will change. Courage to Change

Resentments of others makes you feel like a victim and costs you self esteem.  Instead of focusing on others whom you can do nothing about, change your own thinking.  It helps to have a few positive thinking mantras such as, … Continue reading

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#233 – “Work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen.” Conon O’Brien.

Simply put, do your best and don’t worry about the outcome. Read my latest e-book:  Charlotte Parker – 49er.  I think you’ll enjoy it.  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#229 – “Gratitude listing “rewires your brain, allowing it to actually work more optimistically and more successfully” Shawn Achor

Gratitude listing is a simple five-minute habit anyone can adopt that can make you a happier person. and happier people attract the best of everything life has to offer.   Listing five things you are grateful for every morning before … Continue reading

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#232 – Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ~Winston Churchill

Add to that another old saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” What’s so interesting to me, is often winners I have known are not aware when they have succeeded because they are so busy plugging along, simply doing … Continue reading

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#231 – If you want to keep a relationship going, you have to put the energy in.

This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why.  He puts in the energy.  His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends.   It’s easy not to and most people … Continue reading

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#287 – “You can’t hold grudges.” Ben Affleck.

“You must forgive and at least try to forget if you want to get ahead in life,” Ben Affleck said last night in his speech at the Academy Awards.  A favorite line of mine from the Course of Miracles is: … Continue reading

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#286 – Amateurs view anxiety as a bad thing while professionals tend to view it as a good thing. New York Times Magazine

Science of elite performance studies have shown that people who feel anxious during a test actually do better. That same study states that their anxiety and insecurity help them focus. So it’s okay to be nervous and insecure, just don’t … Continue reading

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#284 – A surplus of effort can overcome a deficit of confidence. Sonia Sotomayor, Supreme Court Justice

This is the sort of information that contributed heavily to Sonia Sotomayor becoming a supreme court judge.   When she became a federal judge in 1992, she says she was so terrified, that her knees were literally knocking together.  She … Continue reading

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#281 – “Write a day in your life five years from now.” Sarah Little Turnbull

Write down where you live, where you work, whether you have kids, and  try to describe an ordinary day. This will help you think what is possible for you. Check out my latest e-book, Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger.  http://tinyurl.com/d67mzt6

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#280 – You’re always responsible for the effort — not the outcome. Mary Jo Copeland, Founder, Sharing and Caring Hands.Org

You aren’t in charge of the outcome.  All you can do is make the effort and hope for the best. Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger http://tinyurl.com/anabr4o

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#279 – Advice from young me to old me. Sandra Rector

I wrote this when I was in my fifties after dealing with both my mother and my mother-in-law. I revisisted this list  recently and now at 73, I am trying to take my own advice. Keep your aches and pains to yourself … Continue reading

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#277 – Listen twice as much as you speak. Old proverb

Something magical happens when you listen more than you speak.  You come across as wise, caring, concerned, interested, the list goes on and as a further benefit, you might learn something.   Check out my new e-book – Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger : http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#270 – Most important thing I’ve learned.

Be kind. If you are cruel to someone, it will haunt you in later years. Hopefully you will not become old before you figure this out.  This is my last post. It’s been a wonderful reminder to me what I know … Continue reading

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#268 – To lose weight, slow down your eating. From: I Can Make You Thin by Paul McKenna

Slow down your eating and lose weight. Continue reading

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#267 – I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I had to do it for a lifetime.” From: Just for Today

There are times when you simply have to do what you have to do whether you like it or not.  When that happens, it helps me to remember that you can’t stop the clock, that time really does move on and that tomorrow is a … Continue reading

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#265 – Before you begin talking about yourself, ask the other person three things about themselves. Anonymous

When you listen and pay attention to someone, chances are you are also making  the other person  feel worthy, appreciated, and respected, which in turn makes you look good.  Something else to know – if you’re doing all the talking, you’re not learning … Continue reading

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#264 – Winners do things that losers are afraid to do. Ed Foreman

Ed Foreman also said, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got. It takes courage to step out the door when what you really want to do is stay home and watch television.  But if … Continue reading

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#263 – Don’t Call it Love – Patrick Carnes

Actions that hurt you are not loving and actions that are loving do not hurt you. Real loves care for each other and have each other’s best interest at heart. Infatuation is about excitement.  Evaleen the Queen by Sandra Rector   Running-Away-to-Santa-Fe … Continue reading

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#262 – “Most people actually become happier after a certain age. Thrive: Finding Happiness in the Blue Zones by Dan Buettner

Studies have shown that, despite the popular belief that nobody wants to get older, most people actually become happier after a certain age.   I know as I age, I am a lot more able to let hurt feelings go and simply enjoy what is like … Continue reading

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