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#281 – You can choose not to obsess about things or people you can do nothing about.

You are in charge of your own thinking.  Be kind to yourself. Advertisements

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#280 – “Look into the mirror and say I love you, I really love you.” Christiane Northrup

According to Ms. Northrup, if you do this for 30 days, it will change your life.  She also says, when you are having a problem, she believes in saying this prayer, “I can’t do this on my own, You take … Continue reading

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278 – “When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointments.” ~Unknown

To expect loved ones or friends to act in a certain way is to become frustrated and hurt.  Give yourself the gift of peace of mind by accepting them as they are, warts and all, and then turning it over … Continue reading

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#277 – Rewire your brain by recalling 3 things you are grateful for. Author unknown.

Interesting how much harder we are on ourselves with our negative thinking and self criticism than anybody else could ever be.  It helps me to come up with a positive phrase such as,  “I am healthy, I am happy, I … Continue reading

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#276 – I have never done anything well that I didn’t have fun doing. Joe Maddon, Chicago Cubs manager

He also believes the more freedom you give the players, the more discipline and respect you get in return.  It must be working because the Chicago Cubs won the World Series last year. Evaleen From Rags to Riches:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx – … Continue reading

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#275 – Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. Viktor E. Frankl

Frankl, a victim of the holocaust, whose wife was killed, chose to remember her love and let that be his guiding light and strength rather than to let himself be filled with hate.  Like Frankl, we are all in charge … Continue reading

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#272 -How You Address Yourself Has an Enormous Affect on Your Success. Psychology Today May/June 2015

In a series of ground breaking experiments Ethan Kross, Nobel Prize winner, discovered that how people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. According to Kross, by addressing yourself by your name instead of … Continue reading

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#271 – Never let what anyone says distract you from your goals. Michelle Obama

“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really … Continue reading

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#270 – Trade your expectation for appreciation and your whole world changes. Tony Robbins

Such a small thing to do for such a big outcome.

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#269 – You don’t have to forget to forgive.

Forgiving someone is your gift to you, a way of freeing your mind. Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#268 – Look to this day! For it is Life, the very Life of Life: From the Sanskrit Salutation of the Dawn

Live in the present and find what you can enjoy there. Let today be the focus of your life. Try not to torment yourself with past mistakes or future worries. Allow yourself to look at your life with wonder instead … Continue reading

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#263 – Forgiveness is the key to happiness. From: The Course of Miracles

Forgiving someone who has harmed you is not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind. When you refuse to forgive someone who has hurt you, you literally keep the hurt alive. Try coming up with a positive … Continue reading

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#262 – Take a few moments to become silent and listen for directions from your higher self. From: Your Sacred Self: Making the Decision to be Free by Wayne Dyer

Sometimes it’s a good idea to simply stop, become quiet and listen to what’s going on inside of you. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you irritated? What’s cluttering up your mind right now and what might you think … Continue reading

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#261 -Practice the discipline of gratitude: Henri Nouwen

Hillary Clinton said this is her favorite quote of all time. “Regardless of how hard the day is, how difficult the decisions are, be grateful,” she said. “Be grateful that you have to reach out, be grateful for your critics, … Continue reading

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#256 – Be present and be grateful – Gwen Stefani

This helps me to remember to be present and to be grateful for what is rather than to spend precious time worrying about circumstances and people I can do nothing about. Running Away to Santa Fe: – http://tinyurl.com/856ksgv     … Continue reading

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#255 – “What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer

When someone says something hurtful to you and you obsess about it, the sooner you  stop giving that person free rent in your head, the happier you will be.  Come up with something positive to say to yourself when you … Continue reading

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#252 – “If you express yourself too much, you’re considered weak.” ― Sylvester Stallone

Something to consider when you have the urge to blurt out your truth to just anybody. Check out my e-book, Evaleen from Rags To Riches about someone who learns to control her emotions and her words on her path to … Continue reading

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#250 – “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Abundance can be in relationships, financial, productivity, spiritual, on and on.  We all have so much more than we know.      

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#248 – Whatever is going on in your life, don’t give up because the finish line is a great place to be.” Rebekah Gregory

Never, ever, ever, give up. Continue reading

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#247 – Leave God a little room to come through.” Quincy Jones

When Quincy Jones is putting together a song, he leaves 20 to 30 pecent for inspiration.   This basically means, think hard, do everything you can think of to do, then basically relax and think about something else. That’s often … Continue reading

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#246 – On the worst days of our lives, there is also something to enjoy.

Proust writes in Swann’s Way about the day Swann’s beloved wife died and how shocked he is to discover himself enjoying the beautiful spring day.   Such is life.

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#245 – Mental strength and a positive attitude are vital to success. Stephen Madden

Mental strength is as important as a positive attitude. It takes mental strength to keep from cracking under pressure. This comes from a course taught by former Navy seal, Commander Mark Divine.  He also includes self awareness and compassion for … Continue reading

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#244 – “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou

Try something new today to shake you out of your rut. Doesn’t have to be big, just something different from your usual routine, something that takes a little courage. Check out my brand new short story, Dreams Come Due on … Continue reading

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#243 – “Perfect is the enemy of the good.” Voltaire

Increasing your effort to be perfect often results in diminishing returns.  So take it easy on yourself. Do your best and then let it go. Running Away to Santa Fe: – http://tinyurl.com/856ksgv – the story of an angry housewife who decides … Continue reading

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#242 – “You become the average of the five people you spend your time with.” Jim Rohn

Enough said. Check out my book, Charlotte Parker  – Forty Niner  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2 On the cover is my hard working grandmother who ran a boarding house.

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#241 – Accepting, allowing, and interacting with your life as though it is exactly as it should be, without making yourself wrong (or right) for what you discover is the way to Self-Realization.” ~Ariel Kane

When you’re confused about what to do next, fully surrendering to the possibilities will help you see a clear path ahead.   Probably best said that if you don’t know what to do, do nothing, but if you do know … Continue reading

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#240 – Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Ann Landers

“Raise the rent and kick them out,” she also said.  Toxic people can do a lot of damage to your self esteem if you let them.   Check out my e-book about a woman who struggles with her self esteem … Continue reading

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#239 – Believing that you are enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. Brene Brown

Belonging starts with self acceptance.  The more you are comfortable with who you are, the less likely you will feel the need to impress others. Check out my e-book, Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner at:  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#238 – “Resentment marks the place where I see myself as a victim.” Courage to Change

Let your resentments go because they cost you too much in self esteem.  Instead of obsessing about or trying to change someone, concentrate on yourself and what you need to change.  Pray also that the person in question be given … Continue reading

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#237 – Questions to ask yourself for a personal mission statement: New York Times, Science Section 1/6/2015

How do you want to be remembered? How do you want people to describe you? Who do you want to be? Who or what matters most to you? What are your deepest values? How would you define success in your … Continue reading

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#236 – Don’t let your emotions rule you.

Never let them see you sweat. It seems to me that the people who succeed in a big way, are able to remain calm, cool and utterly themselves, at least outwardly.  I was reminded of this when watching Carrie Underwood … Continue reading

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#235 – It’s not enough to imagine success; you must also see the barriers. Gabrielle Oettingen

In her book, Rethinking Positive Thinking, she suggests something she calls mental contrast whereby you imagine success but also imagine several of your own behaviours that could keep you from succeeding.  What she discovered was that the students who did … Continue reading

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#234 – Stop hoping that other people will change. Courage to Change

Resentments of others makes you feel like a victim and costs you self esteem.  Instead of focusing on others whom you can do nothing about, change your own thinking.  It helps to have a few positive thinking mantras such as, … Continue reading

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#233 – “Work hard, be kind and amazing things will happen.” Conon O’Brien.

Simply put, do your best and don’t worry about the outcome. Read my latest e-book:  Charlotte Parker – 49er.  I think you’ll enjoy it.  http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#229 – “Gratitude listing “rewires your brain, allowing it to actually work more optimistically and more successfully” Shawn Achor

Gratitude listing is a simple five-minute habit anyone can adopt that can make you a happier person. and happier people attract the best of everything life has to offer.   Listing five things you are grateful for every morning before … Continue reading

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#232 – Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ~Winston Churchill

Add to that another old saying, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” What’s so interesting to me, is often winners I have known are not aware when they have succeeded because they are so busy plugging along, simply doing … Continue reading

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#231 – If you want to keep a relationship going, you have to put the energy in.

This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why.  He puts in the energy.  His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends.   It’s easy not to and most people … Continue reading

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#230 – “Money is power, freedom, a cushion, the root of all evil, the sum of blessings”. Carl Sandburg

Treat money with respect.  Fight the urge to spend your money on things you don’t need or will lose interest in quickly.  There’s no misery like being broke.  Knowing you can pay the rent and buy groceries for months to … Continue reading

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#229 – Don’t Go Anywhere With Money in Your Pocket Looking for Something to Buy” T. Boone Pickens

Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash.  By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at … Continue reading

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#227 – “Don’t Take Anything Personally” Don Miguel Ruiz

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.  If you can become immune to the opinions of others, you will save yourself from needless suffering. Check out my book … Continue reading

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#225 – We have the power to direct our minds to replace the feelings of being upset, depressed, and fearful with the feeling of inner peace. –Gerald G. Jampolsky

Change the way you think  by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This  can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.

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#224 – Happy accidents have a way of changing your life for the good.

The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to … Continue reading

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#223 – “Those who listen well may reap both informational and relational benefits that make them more influential.” Journal of Research in Personality – Columbia University

When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers.  The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and … Continue reading

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#222 – The Secret to Getting Rich is Great Savings Habits. Jonathan Clements

The secret to getting rich is great savings habits. Jonathan Clements Continue reading

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#221 – Dare to be different, to be wrong, to look wrong.” Howard Marks, Billionaire Investor

If you want great results, you have to take a chance  on all of the above. Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, a work of fiction who does all of the above and more in her effort to succeed. Now … Continue reading

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#220 – The way we think determines who we are and what happens to us. From: The Reflecting Pond

Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so,  replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones.  What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being … Continue reading

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#219 – Those who go out of their way to listen to what others are saying, experience greater success. Dr. Adam Grant

If you want to make a good impression,  practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you.   This alone will make you stand out.    

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#216 – You only lose what you cling to: Buddha

According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things.   By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace. Peace to you today.

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#214 – “Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness” – A Course In Miracles

The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be.   Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own … Continue reading

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213 – Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu

There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone.  Avoid them if you possibly can. check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches,  a work of fiction about … Continue reading

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#212 – Trust Your Stuff – common baseball saying

When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to … Continue reading

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#211 – “Embrace Your Mistakes” – Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx

According to a University of Colorado Denver  study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they  learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer.   Or … Continue reading

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