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#276 – I have never done anything well that I didn’t have fun doing. Joe Maddon, Chicago Cubs manager

He also believes the more freedom you give the players, the more discipline and respect you get in return.  It must be working because the Chicago Cubs won the World Series last year. Evaleen From Rags to Riches:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx – … Continue reading

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#272 -How You Address Yourself Has an Enormous Affect on Your Success. Psychology Today May/June 2015

In a series of ground breaking experiments Ethan Kross, Nobel Prize winner, discovered that how people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. According to Kross, by addressing yourself by your name instead of … Continue reading

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#271 – Never let what anyone says distract you from your goals. Michelle Obama

“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really … Continue reading

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#270 – Trade your expectation for appreciation and your whole world changes. Tony Robbins

Such a small thing to do for such a big outcome.

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#269 – You don’t have to forget to forgive.

Forgiving someone is your gift to you, a way of freeing your mind. Charlotte Parker – Forty Niner http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#263 – Forgiveness is the key to happiness. From: The Course of Miracles

Forgiving someone who has harmed you is not for their sake, but for your own peace of mind. When you refuse to forgive someone who has hurt you, you literally keep the hurt alive. Try coming up with a positive … Continue reading

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#262 – Take a few moments to become silent and listen for directions from your higher self. From: Your Sacred Self: Making the Decision to be Free by Wayne Dyer

Sometimes it’s a good idea to simply stop, become quiet and listen to what’s going on inside of you. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you irritated? What’s cluttering up your mind right now and what might you think … Continue reading

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#261 -Practice the discipline of gratitude: Henri Nouwen

Hillary Clinton said this is her favorite quote of all time. “Regardless of how hard the day is, how difficult the decisions are, be grateful,” she said. “Be grateful that you have to reach out, be grateful for your critics, … Continue reading

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#260 -Let the power come. From: In Love With the Mystery by Ann Mortifee.

“Let ecstasy erupt. Allow your heart to expand and overflow with adoration for this magnificent creation and for the love, wisdom, and power that birthed it all. Rapture is needed now – rapture, reverence and grace.” In the book, What … Continue reading

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#229 – Don’t Go Anywhere With Money in Your Pocket Looking for Something to Buy” T. Boone Pickens

Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash.  By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at … Continue reading

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#225 – We have the power to direct our minds to replace the feelings of being upset, depressed, and fearful with the feeling of inner peace. –Gerald G. Jampolsky

Change the way you think  by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This  can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.

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#224 – Happy accidents have a way of changing your life for the good.

The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to … Continue reading

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#223 – “Those who listen well may reap both informational and relational benefits that make them more influential.” Journal of Research in Personality – Columbia University

When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers.  The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and … Continue reading

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#222 – The Secret to Getting Rich is Great Savings Habits. Jonathan Clements

The secret to getting rich is great savings habits. Jonathan Clements Continue reading

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#221 – Dare to be different, to be wrong, to look wrong.” Howard Marks, Billionaire Investor

If you want great results, you have to take a chance  on all of the above. Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, a work of fiction who does all of the above and more in her effort to succeed. Now … Continue reading

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#220 – The way we think determines who we are and what happens to us. From: The Reflecting Pond

Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so,  replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones.  What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being … Continue reading

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#219 – Those who go out of their way to listen to what others are saying, experience greater success. Dr. Adam Grant

If you want to make a good impression,  practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you.   This alone will make you stand out.    

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#216 – You only lose what you cling to: Buddha

According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things.   By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace. Peace to you today.

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#215 – Failure is not the opposite of success but a stepping stone to success. Arianna Huffington

“It’s okay to try things and fail,” she said, stating on “Katie” that some of her biggest successes appeared to be huge failures at first. Check out my book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, for the story of someone … Continue reading

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#214 – “Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness” – A Course In Miracles

The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be.   Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own … Continue reading

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213 – Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu

There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone.  Avoid them if you possibly can. check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches,  a work of fiction about … Continue reading

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#212 – Trust Your Stuff – common baseball saying

When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to … Continue reading

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#211 – “Embrace Your Mistakes” – Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx

According to a University of Colorado Denver  study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they  learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer.   Or … Continue reading

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#210 – “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” Will Smith

There will always be someone who doesn’t like you or approve of you at one time or another.  “Don’t get too affected by them or even allow them to bring you down. Just let it go, and move on with life. … Continue reading

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#209 – If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Mary Engelbreit

When I get to obsessing about something that I can do nothing about, I do simple math problems in my head. This changes my focus from the right side of the brain (the feeling, intuitive side) to the left side … Continue reading

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#206 – a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. Napoleon Hill

Even if you don’t say a word, people can sense if you don’t like them or are judging them harshly.    Better to think positive about them if you possibly can, especially if you must deal with them on a … Continue reading

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#205 – “People are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” Abraham Lincoln

You can choose to be happy and have an attitude of gratitude or you can concentrate on the negative and moan about your fate.  We all have good and bad in our lives. Happiness is a choice.

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#204 – Help Yourself by Being Kind – Bill Taylor

Small gestures can send big signals about who we are, what we care about, and why people should want to affiliate with us. It’s harder (and more important) to be kind than to be clever. Happy holidays and don’t forget … Continue reading

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#203 – “It’s normal to feel vulnerable when you’re in a period of change.” Brene Brown

It’s okay to be scared and uncertain. It just means you are in a period of change when anything can happen. Uncertainty is a necessary part of getting where you want to go.

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#202 – “Don’t let your emotions rule you.” Warren Buffet

What upsets you today could change tomorrow.   Acting on an initial emotion often leads us to do things we regret and can cause trouble later.    Give yourself time to reflect before jumping to conclusions.  

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#201 – “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

You can’t please everybody any more than you can like everybody. Nor by the same token, can everybody please you or  like you. Those are just the facts of life. Best to face it, learn whatever you can from it, … Continue reading

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#200 – How you stand displays your power or lack of power. Dana R. Carney, Amy J.C. Cuddy, Andy J Yap

“That a person can, by assuming two simple 1-min poses, embody power and instantly become more powerful has real-world, actionable implications. Go  to the following website to see both high power and low power poses. http://www.people.hbs.edu/acuddy/in%20press,%20carney,%20cuddy,%20&%20yap,%20psych%20science.pdf

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#199 – “Being vulnerable is the magic sauce that holds relationships together.” Brene Brown

She also said that vulnerability is about showing up and letting yourself be seen for who you really are. It’s tough to do when we’re terrified about what people might say or think.   But by letting people see who … Continue reading

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#296 – Major ways to lose face. From: Practical Magic

Lying to ourselves or others; Constantly seeking validation from others; Talking or thinking negatively; Tolerating people, things or situations that are bad for us;, Having ridiculous expecations of ourselves or others; Taking life too seriously. These are also some major … Continue reading

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#295 – “Progress is impossible without change.” George Bernard Shaw

Ask yourself what is and isn’t working for you.  And if something isn’t working, make an effort to try something else. Speaking of someone who must constantly change to succeed, check out my e-book.  Evaleen – From Rags to Riches.  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx … Continue reading

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#294 – To find out if someone is telling the truth ask a yes or no question. From: The Super Easy Lie Detector by Ian Stables

According to Stables, a liar will always avoid answering a simple yes or no question.  Also in his book are some strategies to box a liar in and force an answer that may also reveal if someone is telling you … Continue reading

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#291 – Follow your negative thought with a positive one.

If you are becoming obsessed with negative thoughts about someone, try following your negative thought with a positive one about them if you possibly can. People can sense when you don’t like them and sometimes you have to deal with … Continue reading

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#290 – Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. Napoleon Hill

As Dale Carnegie also said, “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. Check out my latest e-book Chez Tulips Stories … Continue reading

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#289 – “If you Can’t See It, You Can’t Be It.” Gloria Steinem

Might be a good exercise to see if you can actually visualize yourself being successful.  And if not, why not? Check out my latest e-book, Chez Tulips – Stories and Recipes. It comes complete with a simple and delicious recipe … Continue reading

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#288 – Financial security brings more happiness than buying things does.

Research shows that older people’s less materialistic spending habits are one of the biggest reasons that happiness increases with age.  Long term peace of mind is more important than the temporary thrill of buying something you really don’t need.   … Continue reading

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#287 – “You can’t hold grudges.” Ben Affleck.

“You must forgive and at least try to forget if you want to get ahead in life,” Ben Affleck said last night in his speech at the Academy Awards.  A favorite line of mine from the Course of Miracles is: … Continue reading

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#286 – Amateurs view anxiety as a bad thing while professionals tend to view it as a good thing. New York Times Magazine

Science of elite performance studies have shown that people who feel anxious during a test actually do better. That same study states that their anxiety and insecurity help them focus. So it’s okay to be nervous and insecure, just don’t … Continue reading

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#285 – Find a way to break down a massive project into smaller sub-projects.

It’s easy to get lost in the details and overwhelmed by a large project. Find a way to break it down into smaller projects and work on one piece at a time. This will give you a quick win and … Continue reading

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#284 – A surplus of effort can overcome a deficit of confidence. Sonia Sotomayor, Supreme Court Justice

This is the sort of information that contributed heavily to Sonia Sotomayor becoming a supreme court judge.   When she became a federal judge in 1992, she says she was so terrified, that her knees were literally knocking together.  She … Continue reading

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#282 – “Don’t think don’t think. Just do the work.” Bette Midler

Don’t over think, don’t worry or doubt whether what you’re doing is good or not, just forge ahead and do the work. By the way – Happy Holidays.    I love doing Tuesday Tips.  They keep me going and hope … Continue reading

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#281 – “Write a day in your life five years from now.” Sarah Little Turnbull

Write down where you live, where you work, whether you have kids, and  try to describe an ordinary day. This will help you think what is possible for you. Check out my latest e-book, Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger.  http://tinyurl.com/d67mzt6

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#280 – You’re always responsible for the effort — not the outcome. Mary Jo Copeland, Founder, Sharing and Caring Hands.Org

You aren’t in charge of the outcome.  All you can do is make the effort and hope for the best. Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger http://tinyurl.com/anabr4o

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#279 – Advice from young me to old me. Sandra Rector

I wrote this when I was in my fifties after dealing with both my mother and my mother-in-law. I revisisted this list  recently and now at 73, I am trying to take my own advice. Keep your aches and pains to yourself … Continue reading

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#277 – Listen twice as much as you speak. Old proverb

Something magical happens when you listen more than you speak.  You come across as wise, caring, concerned, interested, the list goes on and as a further benefit, you might learn something.   Check out my new e-book – Charlotte Perkins – Gold Digger : http://tinyurl.com/8rjdma2

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#275 – If you could do one thing, what would it be? Jerry Yang, Yahoo

Something to ask yourself when there is too much going on, too many things to do. This is a way that you can focus on what’s really important.  “You can’t rationalize the answer and you can’t attach it to some … Continue reading

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#268 – To lose weight, slow down your eating. From: I Can Make You Thin by Paul McKenna

Slow down your eating and lose weight. Continue reading

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#267 – I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I had to do it for a lifetime.” From: Just for Today

There are times when you simply have to do what you have to do whether you like it or not.  When that happens, it helps me to remember that you can’t stop the clock, that time really does move on and that tomorrow is a … Continue reading

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