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278 – “When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointments.” ~Unknown

To expect loved ones or friends to act in a certain way is to become frustrated and hurt.  Give yourself the gift of peace of mind by accepting them as they are, warts and all, and then turning it over … Continue reading

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#276 – I have never done anything well that I didn’t have fun doing. Joe Maddon, Chicago Cubs manager

He also believes the more freedom you give the players, the more discipline and respect you get in return.  It must be working because the Chicago Cubs won the World Series last year. Evaleen From Rags to Riches:  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx – … Continue reading

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#272 -How You Address Yourself Has an Enormous Affect on Your Success. Psychology Today May/June 2015

In a series of ground breaking experiments Ethan Kross, Nobel Prize winner, discovered that how people conduct their inner monologues has an enormous effect on their success in life. According to Kross, by addressing yourself by your name instead of … Continue reading

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#271 – Never let what anyone says distract you from your goals. Michelle Obama

“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really … Continue reading

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#270 – Trade your expectation for appreciation and your whole world changes. Tony Robbins

Such a small thing to do for such a big outcome.

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#268 – Look to this day! For it is Life, the very Life of Life: From the Sanskrit Salutation of the Dawn

Live in the present and find what you can enjoy there. Let today be the focus of your life. Try not to torment yourself with past mistakes or future worries. Allow yourself to look at your life with wonder instead … Continue reading

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#261 -Practice the discipline of gratitude: Henri Nouwen

Hillary Clinton said this is her favorite quote of all time. “Regardless of how hard the day is, how difficult the decisions are, be grateful,” she said. “Be grateful that you have to reach out, be grateful for your critics, … Continue reading

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#260 -Let the power come. From: In Love With the Mystery by Ann Mortifee.

“Let ecstasy erupt. Allow your heart to expand and overflow with adoration for this magnificent creation and for the love, wisdom, and power that birthed it all. Rapture is needed now – rapture, reverence and grace.” In the book, What … Continue reading

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#229 – Don’t Go Anywhere With Money in Your Pocket Looking for Something to Buy” T. Boone Pickens

Sometimes the urge to buy something expensive we don’t need overwhelms us, especially if we are carrying cash.  By keeping the cash you carry down to enough for a cup of coffee or some lunch and your credit cards at … Continue reading

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#227 – “Don’t Take Anything Personally” Don Miguel Ruiz

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.  If you can become immune to the opinions of others, you will save yourself from needless suffering. Check out my book … Continue reading

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#225 – We have the power to direct our minds to replace the feelings of being upset, depressed, and fearful with the feeling of inner peace. –Gerald G. Jampolsky

Change the way you think  by learning to identify negative thoughts and changing them to a positive affirmation. This  can actually change the way you feel about yourself and your situation and add joy to your life.

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#224 – Happy accidents have a way of changing your life for the good.

The older I get, the more I realize that people who have a lot of success also have a happy accident or two in the beginning of their career that changes their life. Only requirement is that you have to … Continue reading

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#223 – “Those who listen well may reap both informational and relational benefits that make them more influential.” Journal of Research in Personality – Columbia University

When subjects were asked to rate former work colleagues, scientists found those with the most influence were the best listeners not talkers.  The reason? Hearing what colleagues have to say fosters two key elements for gaining influence: forming trust and … Continue reading

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#222 – The Secret to Getting Rich is Great Savings Habits. Jonathan Clements

The secret to getting rich is great savings habits. Jonathan Clements Continue reading

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#221 – Dare to be different, to be wrong, to look wrong.” Howard Marks, Billionaire Investor

If you want great results, you have to take a chance  on all of the above. Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, a work of fiction who does all of the above and more in her effort to succeed. Now … Continue reading

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#220 – The way we think determines who we are and what happens to us. From: The Reflecting Pond

Being angry or negative hurts you more than it hurts anyone else. If you can possibly do so,  replace your destructive thoughts with hope-filled, positive ones.  What I know for sure is that the more I let go of being … Continue reading

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#219 – Those who go out of their way to listen to what others are saying, experience greater success. Dr. Adam Grant

If you want to make a good impression,  practice making a conscious effort to hear and understand what someone is saying to you.   This alone will make you stand out.    

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#216 – You only lose what you cling to: Buddha

According to the Buddha, all suffering comes from clinging too tightly to people or things.   By letting go you can stop obsessing about things you have no control over and be at peace. Peace to you today.

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#215 – Failure is not the opposite of success but a stepping stone to success. Arianna Huffington

“It’s okay to try things and fail,” she said, stating on “Katie” that some of her biggest successes appeared to be huge failures at first. Check out my book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches, for the story of someone … Continue reading

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#214 – “Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness” – A Course In Miracles

The more you let go of your old grievances, the happier and more at peace you will be.   Life is too short to worry about things you can do nothing about. Better to forgive and forget for your own … Continue reading

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213 – Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu

There will always be naysayers, people who have their own reasons why you shouldn’t do something or be someone.  Avoid them if you possibly can. check out my e-book, Evaleen – From Rags to Riches,  a work of fiction about … Continue reading

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#212 – Trust Your Stuff – common baseball saying

When coaches tell pitchers to trust your stuff, they mean don’t try to be perfect. Do your best and trust that it will work out. If there is a setback, continue to trust that you are already good enough to … Continue reading

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#211 – “Embrace Your Mistakes” – Sara Blakely, founder of Spanx

According to a University of Colorado Denver  study, organizations, as well as people, who fail spectacularly are more likely to flourish in the long run because they  learn more from failure than from success and retain the knowledge longer.   Or … Continue reading

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#210 – “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” Will Smith

There will always be someone who doesn’t like you or approve of you at one time or another.  “Don’t get too affected by them or even allow them to bring you down. Just let it go, and move on with life. … Continue reading

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#209 – If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Mary Engelbreit

When I get to obsessing about something that I can do nothing about, I do simple math problems in my head. This changes my focus from the right side of the brain (the feeling, intuitive side) to the left side … Continue reading

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#206 – a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. Napoleon Hill

Even if you don’t say a word, people can sense if you don’t like them or are judging them harshly.    Better to think positive about them if you possibly can, especially if you must deal with them on a … Continue reading

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#205 – “People are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” Abraham Lincoln

You can choose to be happy and have an attitude of gratitude or you can concentrate on the negative and moan about your fate.  We all have good and bad in our lives. Happiness is a choice.

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#204 – Help Yourself by Being Kind – Bill Taylor

Small gestures can send big signals about who we are, what we care about, and why people should want to affiliate with us. It’s harder (and more important) to be kind than to be clever. Happy holidays and don’t forget … Continue reading

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#203 – “It’s normal to feel vulnerable when you’re in a period of change.” Brene Brown

It’s okay to be scared and uncertain. It just means you are in a period of change when anything can happen. Uncertainty is a necessary part of getting where you want to go.

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#202 – “Don’t let your emotions rule you.” Warren Buffet

What upsets you today could change tomorrow.   Acting on an initial emotion often leads us to do things we regret and can cause trouble later.    Give yourself time to reflect before jumping to conclusions.  

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#201 – “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

You can’t please everybody any more than you can like everybody. Nor by the same token, can everybody please you or  like you. Those are just the facts of life. Best to face it, learn whatever you can from it, … Continue reading

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#200 – How you stand displays your power or lack of power. Dana R. Carney, Amy J.C. Cuddy, Andy J Yap

“That a person can, by assuming two simple 1-min poses, embody power and instantly become more powerful has real-world, actionable implications. Go  to the following website to see both high power and low power poses. http://www.people.hbs.edu/acuddy/in%20press,%20carney,%20cuddy,%20&%20yap,%20psych%20science.pdf

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#199 – “Being vulnerable is the magic sauce that holds relationships together.” Brene Brown

She also said that vulnerability is about showing up and letting yourself be seen for who you really are. It’s tough to do when we’re terrified about what people might say or think.   But by letting people see who … Continue reading

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#296 – Major ways to lose face. From: Practical Magic

Lying to ourselves or others; Constantly seeking validation from others; Talking or thinking negatively; Tolerating people, things or situations that are bad for us;, Having ridiculous expecations of ourselves or others; Taking life too seriously. These are also some major … Continue reading

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#295 – “Progress is impossible without change.” George Bernard Shaw

Ask yourself what is and isn’t working for you.  And if something isn’t working, make an effort to try something else. Speaking of someone who must constantly change to succeed, check out my e-book.  Evaleen – From Rags to Riches.  http://tinyurl.com/a5zvzpx … Continue reading

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#294 – To find out if someone is telling the truth ask a yes or no question. From: The Super Easy Lie Detector by Ian Stables

According to Stables, a liar will always avoid answering a simple yes or no question.  Also in his book are some strategies to box a liar in and force an answer that may also reveal if someone is telling you … Continue reading

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#290 – Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. Napoleon Hill

As Dale Carnegie also said, “Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. Check out my latest e-book Chez Tulips Stories … Continue reading

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#289 – “If you Can’t See It, You Can’t Be It.” Gloria Steinem

Might be a good exercise to see if you can actually visualize yourself being successful.  And if not, why not? Check out my latest e-book, Chez Tulips – Stories and Recipes. It comes complete with a simple and delicious recipe … Continue reading

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#288 – Financial security brings more happiness than buying things does.

Research shows that older people’s less materialistic spending habits are one of the biggest reasons that happiness increases with age.  Long term peace of mind is more important than the temporary thrill of buying something you really don’t need.   … Continue reading

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#285 – Find a way to break down a massive project into smaller sub-projects.

It’s easy to get lost in the details and overwhelmed by a large project. Find a way to break it down into smaller projects and work on one piece at a time. This will give you a quick win and … Continue reading

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#275 – If you could do one thing, what would it be? Jerry Yang, Yahoo

Something to ask yourself when there is too much going on, too many things to do. This is a way that you can focus on what’s really important.  “You can’t rationalize the answer and you can’t attach it to some … Continue reading

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#269 – Bottom line is, if you do not use it or need it, it needs to go. From: Charisse Ward

It’s difficult to think clearly in a cluttered environment. To begin cleaning out the clutter, treat yourself like Pavlov’s dog – work for 15 minutes and give yourself a reward.   Most organizers recommend making three piles – one to keep, one to … Continue reading

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#266 – “Write down 3-4 things you did today and 3-4 things you plan to do tomorrow. Terry Tietzen

Write down what you did today and what you plan to accomplish tomorrow. Continue reading

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#263 – Don’t Call it Love – Patrick Carnes

Actions that hurt you are not loving and actions that are loving do not hurt you. Real loves care for each other and have each other’s best interest at heart. Infatuation is about excitement.  Evaleen the Queen by Sandra Rector   Running-Away-to-Santa-Fe … Continue reading

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#262 – “Most people actually become happier after a certain age. Thrive: Finding Happiness in the Blue Zones by Dan Buettner

Studies have shown that, despite the popular belief that nobody wants to get older, most people actually become happier after a certain age.   I know as I age, I am a lot more able to let hurt feelings go and simply enjoy what is like … Continue reading

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#250 – Enjoy Every Sandwich, a book by Lee Lipsenthal

Studies prove that older people are happier than younger people and as I grow older myself, I’m beginning to understand why. Time is too precious to waste it with the haters or the chronic complainers or worry about what people … Continue reading

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#249 – “Live without expecting too much from others.” From: Walk in Dry Places by Mel B.

People are not here to please or satisfy us, nor do they owe us anything. Our personal responsibility is to do our best even when others fall short of our expectations.  Being reliable and dependable ourselves helps us to grow and become … Continue reading

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#248 – A Serving of Gratitude May Save the Day – John Tierny, New York Times

“Cultivating an attitude of gratitude has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, less anxiety and depression, higher long term satisfaction with life and kinder behaviour to others, including romantic partners,” Tierny says in todays article in the New York … Continue reading

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#247 – Choose the things that make you feel good about who you are, that you can be proud of. From: Life Lessons by Elisabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler

Identify three things you liked and three things you disliked about all your past jobs. Then ask yourself why you liked or disliked them. Your unique strengths and skills will start to emerge very clearly.   Evaleen the Queen, a tale … Continue reading

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#246 – “If you tell the truth, everything will work out.” Tom Hanks

 Incidentally a few ways to tell if someone is lying to you from Bill Brown, a former FBI agent.  Liars are nervous, will try to change the conversation,  cover their  mouth, and will look away then right back at you to … Continue reading

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#245 – “Change your focus, and you change your level of happiness” Anthony Robbins

Giving into your negative, self destructive thoughts is damaging to you and you alone.  How much better we would all be if we could switch our focus to something positive or at least neutral, especially when we’re obsessing about something we … Continue reading

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#244 – “Focus on what you can accomplish rather than obstacles.” Outswimming the Sharks by Harvey McKay

 It’s easy to become overwhelmed by the demands of a long term project.  Thanks to my brother Terry and his advice to do a project little by little instead of all at once, I have managed to finish big projects like writing books and smaller … Continue reading

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