This is from my husband who has a lot of friends and this why. He puts in the energy. His grandfather was the same way and also had a lot of friends. It’s easy not to and most people won’t, but if you want to have friends, it is up to you, not them to keep the friendship going.
Conversely, waking up each day and devoting yourself to being kind, even and especially to people who are not kind to you, is actually incredibly difficult. It is arduous and deliberate work, and the doing of it will at times make you feel small and foolish. What’s more, in the end, it will on its own merits almost never yield a person awards or honors or riches. But it is important work and needs to be done for its own sake.